The Fake It ‘Til You Make It Theory

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In the eighth grade, my best friend Lindsay introduced me to a theory of hers: fake it ’til you make it. No, she wasn’t telling me to get catty with the popular crowd. She wasn’t telling me to cheat on tests or go to the tanning bed. She was teaching me to work hard and never let anyone or anything get me down. When the going gets tough, smack a smile on and keep pushing because, ultimately, you are worth more than the tough time you are going through.

A bit harder than it sounds, huh? When school work turns into work-work, friendships come and go so quickly, and high school flings turn into long distance challenges, this theory can sometimes be forgotten. Yet even after ten years, our juvenile hypothesis still exists. Today, I like to think of that 8th grade advice as my beginner’s course at Sophia Amoruso’s #GIRLBOSS academy.

New York Time's Best Seller, #GIRLBOSS (photo sourced)
New York Time’s Best Seller, #GIRLBOSS (photo sourced)

You may have heard of Sophia Amoruso. She turned her hobby of selling vintage clothing into a 28-million dollar corporation called Nasty Gal – without borrowing a dime, I might add. She is also the author of the New York Times Bestseller, #GIRLBOSSSophia knows what’s up, and if you ask me, she is an avid user of the F.I.T.Y.M.I theory.

I read #GIRLBOSS about eight months ago. To this day, it has become some sort of ambition-bible to me. I have never been one to have a strict belief system. I don’t put all my eggs in one basket when it comes to luck, magic, or anything of the sorts. I guess I have found that there is too much uncertainty in life. Though, there is one thing I can count on 100% of the time and that is myself. No tricks in the book can work as well as me working my ass off to reach a goal. Period. And when times get rough with work or relationships, that’s when you roll with the punches and keep moving.

I think it has to be mentioned that since the day I was born, my mother has warned me of two (among many) tormenting habits of mine. One is the ever-classic “watch your tone, Tarah Kathryn” and the other being “You are your own worst enemy.” Whether it was a prom dress that I wasn’t 150% confident in, a senior thesis that I picked to pieces right before it was due, or the 10-billion mistakes I made when starting my first job, I have NEVER had a problem scrutinizing myself.  Honestly, I think it comes pretty natural to most of us.

Now, I like to think of myself as a little angel and devil; a cheerleader and rioter; a Jekyll and Hyde of sorts. Everyone gets into a rut every now and then. It’s important to know how to motivate and have confidence in yourself because, trust me, sometimes it’s all that matters. It’s all about kicking ass but knowing when your plate is too full (sorry October blog posts!). Whenever I have a stressful week or a day that makes me feel numb inside and causes me to have to ice my eyeballs from computer-staring (yes, that happens. Sorry doc.), I turn to chapter six and let Sophia tell me why it’s so important to keep going and keep pushing.

“You get back what you put out, so you might as well think positively, focus on visualizing what you want instead of getting distracted by what you don’t want, and send the universe your good intentions so that it can send them right back.”

Without even knowing it, Sophia has read the F.I.T.Y.M.I handbook in more ways than one. In an early chapter, she talks about role models and the art of comparison. Though admiration can be good, there can also be a discouraging side to it – hello social media superstars!

“I don’t want you to look up, #GIRLBOSS, because all that looking up can keep you down. The energy you’ll spend focusing on someone else’s life is better spent working on your own. Just be your own idol.”

The dictionary defines the word “fake” as a thing that is not genuine; a forgery or sham. The irony of the F.I.T.Y.M.I theory is that, in order to truly make it, you can never fake yourself. In order to make your way to the top, you have to stay true to your values. Listen to others but take everything with a grain of salt. The second you lose your sense of encouraging-self, your theory has failed.

Before ending her book, Sophia instructs everyone to bet on themselves. Her stance is clear and to the point, stating that if you are frustrated because you are not getting what you want, you need to stop for a second and ask yourself: Have I actually flat-out asked for it? We can’t expect the world to read our minds.

“Whenever I’m faced with improbably situations, I remind myself that if I really want something badly enough, I have it within myself to make it happen.”

#GIRLBOSSes across the country chimed in on Sophia’s badassness and gave their own “how-to” tips:

Alexi Wasser, creator of imboycrazy.com advises us to “figure out what you love doing and don’t suck at, then try to figure out how to make a living doing that!”

Christene Barberich, Editor in Chief of Refinery29 urges readers to “stop caring so much about what other people think. Find a way to hear what you want. I don’t know if there is any greater feeling than proving you are your own biggest advocate.”

This is starting to sound like a You-Go-Girl speech for the ages, I know, but consider the sources here. Each of these women #girlbosses, have started companies, elevated brands, and formed solid, respectable reputations. They know what their talking about because they faked it ’til they made it, letting nothing get in their way. Whether it’s your dream to start your own company or to be the best employee your boss has ever seen, their advice works for you.

“You’re challenge as a #GIRLBOSS is to dive headfirst into things without being too attached to the results. When your goal is to gain experience, perspective, and knowledge, failure is no longer a possibility.”

Now, I am not Sophia Amoruso. The accomplishments under my belt probably look like a crumb left on her kitchen counter, but I get her and I don’t take her advice lightly. I have spent the beginning of my fall on a workaholics binge – and I wish I was talking about the tv show. That being said, I made little time for myself and my relationships. I forgot that the one thing that makes me most happy is my creativity. I was in a creative funk. Welp, it’s time for the funk to end and for me to get back to the blogisphere with my second #nextlevelchallenge:

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6 steps to get out of that creative funk:

  1. Know when your plate is too full and diet. Freelance design was taking over my me-time this summer. By cutting that out of my diet, I had time to write again.
  2. Rearrange your space. Move the furniture, change up your artwork, add a plant. Creating new scenes in your daily life can help you see things through a different light.
  3. Have a birthday. Okay, you can’t technically do this now if your birthday is in March but that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate you. Order the champagne with lunch and get the pricey shoes.
  4. Explore. Get out of your everyday landscape and go see things. This is where I feel most inspired. Shh, my 4-day excursion to Miami is coming to the blog next week!
  5. Call an oldie but a goodie. A bestie always knows the answer; even the ones we don’t want to tell ourselves. Catching up with someone you love can make all the difference.
  6. Read and write it out. This is the best advice I’ve ever been given. Write out your thoughts. And of course, read #GIRLBOSS. Obvs.

In the final words of Sophia, “bad bitches are taking over the world… We’ve arrived, and we’re killing it. There’s a chance for you, #GIRLBOSS. So take it.” … and fake it ’til you make it. 

xoxo

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Peaches to Pearls & #eatpretty

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Hi Blanc Blog readers! Let me begin by introducing myself before you think I’m a crazy blog hacker – my name is Luisa from Peaches To Pearls. It is such an honor to be able to be a guest blogger here today. Isn’t Miss Tarah just ridiculously talented? And adorable. And witty. Okay Okay you get it – I’m a big fan!

To tell you a little bit about myself – I am currently obtaining my Masters in Clinical Nutrition at Georgia State University in Atlanta, Georgia. I am passionate about food (ALL food- I don’t discriminate! Except pickles. I hate pickles.) and affordable fashion. Everything you find on my blog is purchased on a student budget!

Today I want to share with you a little bit about my #eatpretty15 challenge. Before I scare you away, please understand that I am not your typical healthy-nutrition enthusiast. My favorite meal is a juicy burger and I hate kale salads. BUT I do believe in moderation. I believe that you don’t have to starve yourself to be pretty and you don’t have to give up everything delicious to get skinny. I do believe that you should have more good (healthy green stuff) in your daily diet, than bad (greasy French fries). So hopefully I have gained your trust and you are dying to know what exactly this #eatpretty15 challenge is all about.


 

I believe that you don’t have to starve yourself to be pretty and you don’t have to give up everything delicious to get skinny.


For the next 5 weeks (January 12 – February 15), I will give you a challenge. The name of the challenge came from an amazing book I read last month called Eat Pretty, by Jolene Hart, where she gives detailed information on how food affects our beauty. Each week’s challenge has been inspired by her book and by the physician/dietitian recommended Mediterranean Diet.

The challenge is not meant to be impossible or extremely difficult. We are already in week 2, so if you want to jump on in please do! Here is the breakdown of the weeks:

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Depending on how much of a challenge you want, you can do this two different ways:

  • Method 1: Do one week at a time. Do as much as you can handle and one weekly challenge at a time.
  • Method 2: Do each weeks challenge, then carry it into the following week. For example, you would go all 5 weeks with only drinking water if you did this method. This is very difficult but if you are up for the challenge – YOU GO GIRL!

This challenge does not have the sole purpose of “cleansing” your bodies, like for example- a week long juice cleanse. This challenge is to get your body healthy by incorporating exercise and clean eating. Cleansing will naturally happen with your new clean eating methods.

Every Friday for the next 5 weeks I will present you with the weeks challenge. Along with nutritional information, I will also give you a few recipe ideas to get you going for the week. Remember to incorporate Pinterest and maybe even make a special board just for the challenge! Join in on the community of women who are doing this challenge by using hashtag #eatpretty15 on your pictures via social media.

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If you have any questions along the way, please don’t hesitate to e-mail me. My email address is peachestopearls@gmail.com. Although I cannot give you an individual meal plan, I can help answer any questions of what you can and cannot eat.

I’m going to end my post today with my favorite healthy dessert. This recipe is allowed this week because it’s naturally sweetened by coconut and does not have any processed sugar. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do! Thanks for stopping by and reading along today!

Xoxo,
Luisa

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Coconut Banana Chia Seed Pudding Recipe

Ingredients:

  • 1/4 cup of chia seeds
  • 1 cup vanilla almond milk (can also use coconut milk)
  • 1 ripe banana
  • 2 tbsp unsweetened shredded coconut
  • 1/4 cup roasted coconut chips (Trader Joes)
  • 1 sliced banana
  • 1/4 cup granola (leave this out to make this gluten free)

Directions:

  • In a small blender, add almond milk, 1 banana, shredded coconut, vanilla extract and sugar. Blend together until smooth.
  • In a small container add liquid mixture in with chia seeds.
  • Soak overnight or for at least 4 hours in refrigerator
  • Top chia seed pudding with sliced banana, granola, and toasted coconut chips.

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